But if women start asking guys out on dates, it'll become a more normal way of doing things, and all of these fears will become eradicated.
In other words, if start asking men out, it'll pave the way for future generations of women to do so, too – and, even more so, to feel good about it.
If you've been down this road before, you know that it's seldom successful.
They described men who drove them crazy by calling and hanging around while never asking them out on a real date.
And it's upsetting and limiting to both us and to the dudes who want to date us.
We're afraid of coming off as too assertive, too dominant or (the worst crime a woman can commit) not “mysterious” or “chase-able” enough.
That's because asking someone out involves potential pain. Worst of all, you engage in the most banal and abysmal of non-dates-going to coffee.
If the object of your affection becomes aware of your intentions, he or she might not reciprocate, and that's going to hurt. Instead of asking someone out on a date and being bold in their intentions, they turn to the soggy milquetoast alternative to dating: "hanging out."Here's how it works: you like someone but you're afraid to let him or her know. It has the trappings of a date—a cozy ambiance, comforting beverages, atmospheric music—while allowing everyone involved to disavow the actual occurrence of a date.